Friday, July 27, 2012

Shadrach, Meshach, and Abed-nego and Mothering

Yesterday, we were reading in Daniel 3 for our girls' Primary scripture reading program. In this chapter, Shadrach, Meshach, and Abed-nego refused to worship the king, instead choosing to worship only God. Because of their faithfulness to God, they were cast into a furnace burning so hot that it killed the king's servants who put these three young men into the fire. But they were pulled out of the furnace when the king saw that they were not burning.

Sometimes, it's hard to liken these experiences to myself--because they seem so different from what I'm experiencing. But at this point in my life, verse 28 really struck me:

Then Nebuchadnezzar spake, and said, Blessed be the God of Shadrach, Meshach, and Abed-nego, who hath sent his angel, and delivered his servants that trusted in him, and have changed the king’s word, and yielded their bodies, that they might not serve nor worship any god, except their own God.

I've had a lot of opportunity lately to consider mothering. It seems that in the things I've read and listened to recently, anything about improving my abilities as a mother has stood out. And at that moment, this verse spoke of mothering to me. I likened this scripture to myself:

"...Blessed be the God of [Amanda], who hath sent his angel, and delivered his servant [Amanda] that trusted in him, and have changed [the world's] word, and yielded [her] body, that [she] might not serve or worship any god, except [her] own God."

Since having my fourth child, I have noticed people paying a lot more attention to me and my little brood in public. I see some people mentally count my little chicks, then raise their eyebrows, as we pass them in the store. Some just stare in amazement. One mother, who had 2 very young boys in her cart, passed me while muttering, "And I thought my hands were full..." I can't count how many times I've heard similar phrases when we're out and about! I see these opinions as being "cast into the fire," in a manner of speaking. The comments are generally fine. But sometimes, the comments are meant to be scathing--to burn--to make the point that I haven't chosen to worship the same gods that they have chosen to worship.

But even as they cast me into the "fire" of their opinion, I realize how God protects and helps me in the midst of the fire. If I'm realistic, I have to agree, YES! My hands are full! And then I think, "Isn't it great?! They're full of little people who are interesting and creative and learning and growing. This is what life is about!" That doesn't mean that life with several kids isn't challenging, repetitive, and overwhelming at times. But, I know in the deepest part of me that my husband and I were prompted by God to bring each one of these children into our home.

Trusting in God's plan has meant that I have to let go of some things that prevent me from being a better mother. I have to realign myself and focus on doing and being those things that give me the strength and ability to handle the challenges inherent to having four young children. (I'm not perfect in the process of letting go and realigning--but I'm working on it!) Doing what God has asked of me is one way I choose show that I worship Him. Rufusing to bow to the opinions of the world is another.

Maybe I'm a little presumptuous in connecting myself with those three faithful young men. I certainly hope that I will never have to endure what they experienced. But I do hope as the fires of opinon burn around me that people will also see that the hand of God is what allows me to pass through unscathed.

7 comments:

Tiffany said...

Thank you for sharing your inspiration! What really stuck out to me is when you said: "to make the point that I haven't chosen to worship the same gods that they have chosen to worship." It hit me that we all worship gods whether it be the one and true God or money, adventure, TV, etc . . . Great insight for me today! Thank you Amanda :)

Sean and Melissa said...

I love your thoughts. I've also had the same types of experiences more times than I can count, even when I have less than all four children with me. I've never been quite sure how to react to them. The other day, as I was walking into a store with all four a women said, "Oh MY, are ALL of these yours?"

Trying to be positive I smiled and said, " They sure are! I've been really blessed!" and kept on walking. After a moment, she said, "You know what? You really are."

I'm embarrassed because I hope it didn't come off as self-righteous, but the growing anti-family attitude scares me a little sometimes, and I hope than I can be a positive example of what a blessing a large family can be. It's so inspiring so see another optimistic mother. You're a wonderful mother Amanda!

Robyn said...

Love this! I get those comments also. Just the other day someone asked if I was babysitting. I just smiled and replied that they are all mine.

I love how you likened this-I have never thought of it that way, but it really applies to how things are in the world today. There are so many things that are worshiped above family and children; body, career, travel, self, etc. I really like your insight on this! Thanks for sharing. :-)

Erin said...

I am in awe of all the wonderful mothers who can and do bring children into the world. You inspire me. Maybe a few of the turned heads are in awe as well.

You are an encouragement to me and maybe to other mothers who feel a little overwhelmed sometimes with their load. They can look at you and see how happy you are and think "I can do this".

Lydja said...

I don't think having 4 children is "popular" anywhere. In DC I hear it all the time. I'm trying to learn to make them missionary moments. "Yes, four children. I'm so blessed." Or "Yes I'm busy with the best kind of work. Imagine the people they will become!" I don't know. I'm still in the process of figuring out what to say to people. Maybe even something so bold as "I'm so lucky I get to keep them forever. Do you want to know how/want to know more?" Missionary work is everywhere.

Shannon said...

Wowza Amanda. Great thoughts. Great scripture application. I never had thought of that story in terms of mothering, but as I inch closer to bringing this 4th little one into the world I notice more and more that people's opinions of my family/life choices are negative or at least skeptical. And sometimes I'm tempted to agree with them. To question the decisions I know are right. I will definitely remember this story as I go forward in mothering this brood. :) Thanks for the insight!!!

Emily - One Lovely Life said...

I LOVED this post! While I don't have 4, I've gotten SO many comments being pregnant and having my own little "baby" in Sophie. (i.e. OH MY GOSH, you're pregnant AGAIN!?)

This was such a great reminder! Thank you, thank you!

p.s. also, thanks for the feedback about Christmas ideas for Sophie. I really appreciate it!