The Purpose of...Katy Perry?

Last week, on the last day of school, Kallie came home bubbling with a million different emotions. School was out, summer was in. Somehow, while we were talking about everything, Kallie said, "I love Katy Perry!" Cue me inwardly freaking out. OK--I may have outwardly freaked out a little too, because instead of being the rational, calm parent that I always am, (um...you can stop laughing now), I immediately launched into a lecture: "No. You don't like her. You don't even know what her music is about! She doesn't dress modestly and she does naughty things!" In spite of my immediate attempt to clean up that disaster by asking questions, Kallie clammed up.

In the moments that have followed that 3-minute experience, I have kicked myself repeatedly, (but gently), for what I consider a parenting FAIL. And I have given a lot of thought to the future of my darling daughter and my family. I feel like I've all of a sudden been dumped into a whole new realm of parenting that I wasn't prepared to enter for at least another 3-5 years. Maybe I'm being a little over-dramatic. But, as one who studied Family Science in college, I feel like I need to try to prepare myself a little more intensely for what is in my parenting future.

So, recently, I've been thinking a lot about how to improve my parenting. Especially as I have found myself, on many occasions, speaking to my kids with more volume and/or less kindness than I would prefer. I have been reminded of the power of scripture study and fervent prayer--how a daily choice to include both in my schedule serves as a balance and support as I move through my day.

Yesterday, while talking with a friend, I shared with her a phrase another friend shared during the Relief Society lesson on Father's Day. She said, "The purpose of the task is to strengthen the relationship." I vaguely remembered hearing some similar ideas, especially in the midst of my college classes, and I thought, "Yeah--I like that." But, after it tumbled around in my brain for the week, it popped back up at just the right time--and it really struck me. I want that to be my parenting focus for now.

(Image from www.beckyhiggins.com)

So, I have decided to print up several copies of this image and hang it all over my house so I (and my family) can see and remember that one of the purposes of life is to cultivate and strengthen good, healthy relationships. Most of all, I hope this phrase and image will serve as a visual reminder of the kind of parent that I want to be, especially as I look ahead to the teenage years.

I guess I'm kind of grateful for Katy Perry after all. (I NEVER thought I would say that!) The mention of her name alone has brought about a change for the better in my life and home and, I hope, in my family.

First Learn Lesson One

Last night for Family Home Evening, Ryan chose "Love at Home" for our opening song. Ryan and I often laugh when our kids complain, "Why do we have to sing that one AGAIN?," and then we answer "First learn Lesson One..." because we remember hearing something similar in a talk once. (Does anyone else remember that talk? Was that in Conference? I can't find it.)

Today, I was on my way home from grocery shopping with three kids. Tanner was crying and Whitney was trying to sing to him. She, interestingly enough, chose "Love at Home." Clayton, being a contrary 2 year old, was yelling at her to stop singing. It was then that I realized she couldn't remember the words and was singing, "There is joy in every sound..." over and over. I laughed at the irony.

But then I had to stop and think for a minute. Here I was, in a confined space and exhausted from grocery shopping at two stores with several kids, listening to a crying baby, a screaming toddler, and a singing 5 year old. I wondered if there really was joy in EVERY sound. And if the person who wrote that song was ever in a similar situation. Because if they had been, the lyrics might "There is joy in most sounds..."

Then I thought that I should find joy in every sound. It means that I HAVE kids. That they have the ability to talk and to listen. That they are developing their own little personalities. That I get to be home with them to hear these funny (although sometimes stressful) situations.

When I started thinking of how to find joy in those sounds, it really helped my deteriorating attitude to perk up a bit. Who knew that even I am still working on learning Lesson One?

Oh, Happy Day

Today has been a really great day.

We started it by taking our kids to participate in a ward service project on the grounds of the Seattle Temple. I'm not sure how much we really helped, especially since I spent a good chunk of time feeding Tanner in the car. But, more important than what we actually did was teaching our kids that's just what we do. I'm so glad we went.

Later in the day, as we were in between a few activities, one of our neighbors showed up, offering to give us a nice, barely used tricycle. Ryan has been her home teacher for a few months now, in spite of the fact that she hasn't attended church since we moved into the ward 2 years ago. Apparently, she's prepping for a garage sale and didn't want an "insulting" offer on the beautiful trike. She said she'd rather give it away to someone who she knew would enjoy it. Clayton has certainly already been enjoying it! He went out to ride it and didn't even want to come in for dinner tonight. I feel like it's such a perfect blessing right now, as I was just starting the process of finding a trike or Big Wheel for Clayton.

Finally, as you can see from the button in my sidebar, my inlaws are currently serving a mission. They were called to the Baltic Mission--which is where I served my mission! I was THRILLED because it meant we could go visit them AND I could finally show Ryan where I served. A few months in, they were reassigned to serve in the Bulgaria, Sofia mission. I was a little bummed, but looked forward to visiting them in yet another part of the world that I hadn't yet seen. Since then, Ryan and I have been talking about the trip we intended to take next summer and wondering if the trip would be worth the money, since Bulgaria really hasn't been on our bucket list. In addition, Carissa's roommate, Hillary, is living in Lithuania this summer. Since I'm reading Hil's blog on a near-daily basis, (and talking to her occasionally when she and Carissa skype), I have been feeling a little homesick for those places that are so close to my heart. So, in skyping with my inlaws tonight, we discussed the option of meeting them in the Baltics at the end of their mission and touring the area together. Of course, we would be going during a less-desirable, (read: colder), time of year--but I suppose in the grand scheme of things, that's really not going to matter. The thought that I may still get to go back to the Baltics makes me so happy!

For all of the craziness of today, (grumpy kids, almost being rear-ended, lots of errands), these few small events sure made it a great day!

Dreams

Most young girls spend at least a little time dreaming about their future. They think about how it will all come together, who they will marry, and what kind of life they want to build. I was no different.

Because of these dreams, I had certain hopes and expectations that I carried with me through my dating years. As I spent time with different people, I put mental check marks next to those dreams. And with every person I dated, I felt I would have to sacrifice some (or many) of them if the relationship were to continue. In a few instances, I convinced myself that I'd be OK with that. After all, I'd been told my entire life that I'd never find EVERYTHING I wanted. I started to believe that.

Until I met Ryan.

From the very beginning of our relationship, those dreams fell into place between us like tumblers to a key that unlocked my future. Within two weeks after our first date, (Nov. 21, 2003--which has a story of its own!), I was pretty sure that this was IT. Around this time, we had a quiet conversation by the light of the Christmas tree in which we discussed where this relationship was going. While we didn't say the word "marriage," we did admit, in vague (safe) terms, that we both felt that this relationship was more "long-term."

When Ryan went home to Seattle for Christmas, his absence confirmed that "pretty sure" feeling into an "I KNOW" feeling. I remember telling him, as we talked on the phone Christmas night, that life was just better with him than without him. I didn't want to be separated from him ever again! I also remember saying, "Next time you go to Seattle, I am coming with you." And he agreed. During that same conversation, (which was a couple of hours long, if I remember correctly), we talked about getting married. To each other.

We were engaged a month later.

After a four month engagement, we were married on May 22, 2004 in the Mt. Timpanogos temple. Today is our 8th Anniversary. I've said this a million times before and I'm sure this isn't the last time I'll say it: When we got married, I knew I was getting a good guy. What I didn't know was just how good he was!

During our life together, Ryan has shown me again and again what a lucky woman I am to have him. During our sealing, our sealer counseled me to brag about my husband. And, really, Ryan makes it easy to do that! He will happily do anything that needs doing, from changing a diaper to major home improvement projects. He is my calm and steady when I'm anything but. As cliche as it sounds, he really is my best friend. I know that I can trust him with my heart and he will keep it safe. How this incredible man ended up choosing ME remains a mystery to me.

After 8 years, life continues to be better with Ryan than without him. Even in my most hopeful young girl dreams, I could not have imagined a more amazing man or a more beautiful life than the one we have built together. I am so glad he's mine!

Happy Anniversary, Ryan!

Today

Today I am:

Tired. Not because my baby was up, but because my Pick-a-Littles came over last night. Almost 2 years after the play and we're still going strong! Love those ladies.

Grateful that Tanner wasn't hurt when the cart he was in, (which I checked to make sure it wouldn't move), rolled out into the parking lot at Target.

Pondering the merits of chopping 4-6 inches off my hair. I like it long, but today it has been in my way much more than I would prefer.

Proud of Whitney for catching on so well to reading. I'm slightly disappointed that I haven't worked with her much before now. But I'm thrilled at how quickly she has caught on to the concepts.

Surprised at my reaction when Tiny T got his 2 month shots today. With my other kids, I've been fine. This time, I wanted to cry with him.

Amazed by my husband. Because of his hard work and talents, the dining room remodel is DONE. It looks incredible.

Delighted by my sweet 2 year old. He is so loving, so cute, and so sweet. I love his phraseology and his joy for life.

Excited to go hiking as a fmaily tomorrow. There are so many near-by places that we have yet to explore!

Happy to have my sister living with us for the summer. I'm so glad her internship worked out!

Content. Need I say more?

The Arrival

Now that our little one is almost a month old, I decided that it's finally time to post the story. I'm not quite sure where to start...so I'll start where the last post left off.

The two weeks between my last post and my ultrasound were fairly uneventful. My bile acids were steadily declining and, as of Tuesday, March 13, I was completely ready and willing to wait until March 24 for deliver. That same Tuesday, I had my blood work done again and was a bit anxious to know the results.

Friday, March 16, I had my ultrasound--everything looked great. I asked if the cord was wrapped around the baby, as I was concerned this was the case, due to one deceleration during an NST a week and a half prior. The radiologist assured me that the baby was not tangled in the cord. I was relieved to hear this. Later that afternoon, I called my dr's office to find out what the results of my blood work were. My bile acids were at 50--which was both higher than the week prior (33) and above the "dangerous to the baby" threshold (40). At that time, I realized this baby was most likely coming on Sunday, March 18.

Because I was pretty sure the baby was coming sooner than anticipated, we spent our Saturday reorganizing our bedroom, cleaning the house, and finishing up the necessary preparations before the baby came. Babysitters had been arranged for my NST the next morning and I went to bed feeling like this baby could come now.

Sunday morning, at 5 a.m., Kallie threw up. Lovely. I was a bit stressed about this turn of events, but I think I've come to terms with the fact that someone always gets sick when we have plans. It just seems like that's how things go. I couldn't send her off to church with a babysitter when she was sick, so she came to the hospital with us that morning for the NST. I sat in the bed while she curled up in a chair, face covered with a mask, and slept.

The NST went well, but knowing my bile acids were up, my dr. gave me a couple of options. We could bring the baby on Sunday afternoon or we could wait until Saturday, (when he was back in town), but I would have to come in every day for an NST. Knowing that my bile acids would probably continue to rise, knowing that I'd have to take 3 hours out of my day every day for an NST, knowing that I'd have to find babysitters for those 3 hours every day, knowing that my Dr. would be out of town and unable to deliver if any of my NSTs didn't go well...I didn't hesistate to decide that Sunday was the day.

At that point, it was about 10:30. My Dr. wanted us back to prep for surgery by about 12:30. We came home as fast as we could, I was texting people at church the whole time, trying to arrange for the babysitters to drop our kids off at home and for someone to be at our house so soon after church. (I will just say here that I am SO grateful for good friends who are so willing to help us out!)  I had packed most of my things the night before, but needed to gather the final things--like toiletries, nursing pillow, etc. By noon, Kallie was sleeping in her bedroom and we were ready to go. We left her with a phone and a list of phone numbers if the babysitter hadn't arrived in about 15-20 minutes.

We headed out to the car--and as soon as we got in, both Ryan and I mentioned giving me a blessing. This was so important to both of us. We went back in the house and he gave me a wonderful blessing. I don't remember the exact words or phrasing, but I was assured in word and feeling that the baby was going to be fine and that my surgery would go well. I was definitely nervous as we headed out, but so grateful that Heavenly Father has given His power to righteous men--and that my husband holds that power to bless our family.

When we got to the hospital, they did all the pre-surgery prep. I had 2 bags of IV fluids, (which were cold!), while I sat under a "Bair Hug" blanket. (It's basically a paper blanket they attach a hose to and blow warm air into. It was so warm and wonderful!) They had me drink an acid neutralizer for my stomach--which I've had (and hated) every time. I don't know how it's supposed to neutralize acid, because it tastes way more acidic than my tummy feels! (Plus, they gave me Pepcid in my IV this time, so why I needed another acid reducer/controller, I have no idea.) I warned them that I ALWAYS throw up during the surgery, (and the first two times, I threw up until the spinal wore off), but last time, the anesthesiologist put a motion sickness patch on as soon as I was nauseated and I didn't throw up again. So, they put a motion sickness patch on me right then. By about 2:30, meds were all administered, paperwork was filled out, signatures had been obtained...and we headed in to the operating room.

Once I got in there, the anesthesiologist administered my spinal. I felt more than I remember feeling in other c-secs as she was putting it in. But even then, it wasn't worse than a pinch. The warm feeling started spreading from my toes and pretty soon, that familiar "my legs feel like ham hocks" feeling set in. Within a few minutes, preparations were over and it was time to begin the surgery. This time, unlike previous times, I could see a reflection of my abdomen in the surgical lights above the table. Most of the time, I turned my head toward Ryan so I didn't have to see the surgery, but I did look a few times, (mainly when they were pulling the baby out and when they were finishing stitching me up). I found it very interesting and not gross at all! (Of course, you have to remember that I once intended to become a nurse.)

Tanner Elijah arrived at 2:53 p.m. on March 18.

He started crying as soon as he was born, but because of my excess fluid and because he was an early c-sec baby, he had a bit of fluid in his lungs. I could hear it bubbling as he cried. After about a minute or two, he wasn't crying anymore. This isn't all that abnormal, so I wasn't too worried until the anesthesiologist explained to me that they were just giving my baby a little bit of help so he could transistion. That's when I looked over to the warmer and saw that they had a CPAP on my tiny boy--and he was still purple. They were also suctioning his mouth occasionally. I started praying for him (silently and through a few tears), and remembered the blessing that I was given only a few hours earlier. He was going to be just fine--that was SUCH a comfort to me at this point! After another couple of minutes, he was pinking up and breathing on his own. And it was then (after the worst was over) that they finally were able to weigh and measure him.

He weighed 6 lbs. 3 oz. and was 18 1/4 inches long. He now holds the distinction of smallest baby in our family. (Just for the sake of comparison, Clayton was born at the same gestational age as Tanner...and Clayton holds the distinction of largest baby in our family.)

I don't remember a whole lot that happened after that or in what order. In spite of the motion sickness patch, as they were closing me back up, I threw up. I'm pretty sure all that was in my stomach was that awful acid neutralizer. Next time, I'm going to see if they'll let me skip it. As they were finishing up the surgery, the nurse mentioned that APGARs had been 3, 4, then 7. Yikes. I'm glad he finally caught on to the breathing thing. It was also during the final part of my surgery that my Dr. told me Tanner was completely tangled in the cord. It was wrapped around his neck, body, and legs. He said it was a good thing we'd delivered on Sunday--because had something happened to the baby before Saturday, we wouldn't have known if it was a cord accident or because of my cholestasis.

I'm not sure when they took Tanner to the NICU, but Ryan went with him. (I'm sure Ryan can fill in these details.) They finished the surgery, then took me back to my labor and delivery room for post-surgery monitoring. Ryan joined me there after Tanner was settled in the NICU and we made phone calls to let our family members know that he was here. After a bit longer, they moved me to a mother baby room for the rest of my stay.

I worked really hard to wiggle my toes/legs as soon as I could because I wanted to go to the NICU to see my baby. Within a few hours, although my legs were still tingly, I could move them. The nurses were great and brought a wheelchair as soon as I asked to see Tanner. This is when I finally got to hold Tanner and try nursing him for the first time. He did a pretty good job and was really getting the hang of it!  I'll just add here that because Tanner was "late pre-term" (meaning he was born prior to 37 weeks), there were all sorts of instructions about feeding him. I had to try to nurse him, supplement with formula, (he was supposed to eat a certain amount), and then I was supposed to pump. I spent a lot of time just dealing with all of the feeding "requirements" in the hospital!

Because of Tanner's breathing issues at birth, I thought he'd probably be in the NICU for longer than the mandatory 6-hour observation for pre-term babies. I was actually quite pleasantly surprised when they brought Tanner to me as soon as that observation had ended. It was so nice to have my perfect, tiny boy in my room with me. I didn't want to let him out of my sight again!

The last 4 weeks have passed in a whirlwind. The day after I came home from the hospital,Ryan and I came down with that sickness Kallie had. (Thank goodness we didn't throw up--just had a cough and felt HORRIBLE.) Clayton came down with it that night, and Whitney came down with it about a week later. I was so concerned about my tiny newborn getting it, too! None of the kids were allowed to touch Tanner or even get near him until I was certain that they were no longer sick. In fact, Kallie just got to really hold him a couple of days ago!

We love our Baby Tanner. He is so sweet. Clayton can't keep his hands off his brother--he's always touching, patting, kissing, etc. And, at first, every time Clayton saw Tanner, he would say, "Baby Nanner SOOOO tute!" It was so cute to hear and see! We just can't get enough of this tiny little boy and are so glad he (safely) joined our family!

ICP, PUPPPS, and other pregnancy news

I was originally going to e-mail out an update, but figured this was an easier way to share all of the info with inquiring minds. 

First of all, a little refresher, (if you've been updated lately, you can skip down to the paragraph starting with "Then, last week"), back in December, while I was in the hospital because of a gallbladder attack, I was diagnosed with Intrahepatic Cholestasis of Pregnancy.  This was NO surprise, as I've had it with each previous pregnancy.  In simple terms, the high amounts of hormones in my pregnant body cause my liver to malfuntion and bile isn't secreted properly.  Thus, bile backs up into my blood stream and causes intense itching, mainly on my hands/forearms and feet/lower legs.  And by intense, I mean that I want to rip off my skin and scratch my bones.  The main complication this causes is increased risk of stillbirth in the last month of pregnancy.  Because of this risk, my babies come a little earlier than most.  The good news is that there is a medication that lowers the bile levels in my bloodstream and reduces the risk to the baby.  So, upon diagnosis, I started the medication and moved on.

While things were far from perfect, (including a couple of gallbladder attacks, drastically increased bile acid levels, and adjustments to my medication), we finally found a balance that worked.  I was relieved to see my bile acids drop WAY down in early Februrary.  At that point, we scheduled a c-sec for March 24.

Then, last week, I developed a new symptom--a severely itchy, red rash all over my uncomfortably-stretched-belly.  I thought it might have been a reaction to some lotion I used the night before, but it turned out to be PUPPPS, which is an acronym for something, but basically means "itchy rash caused by being pregnant".  This complication is not at all harmful to the baby, but severely annoying to the mother--as you itch like crazy ALL THE TIME.  And, there isn't really much I can do about the rash.  I've been trying pine tar soap and some essential oils, which seem to be helping a bit--but the itching can still reach killer levels pretty quickly!  I'm just glad I know the difference between the itching that's bad for my baby and the surface/rash itching that doesn't indicate harm to my child.  I spent last weekend in a little bit of a funk trying to deal with the crazy itching that comes on at all hours of the day and night.  Anyway, for those who are keeping count, I have now been diagnosed with TWO severe-itch-causing pregnancy issues.  Lovely.

Today, I had another non-stress test and appointment with my dr.  The non-stress test, (which happens weekly at this point), went great--as it has for the past few weeks.  But, my bile acids are up again.  They're not super high, but high enough to make us think this baby may need to come sooner than later.  So, this afternoon, I had the first of two steroid shots that will help my baby's lungs mature, so he'll be able to come anytime in the next few weeks.  I will have the second one tomorrow.  If my bile acids continue to rise, there is a possibility that this baby may come in about a week and a half.  If they hover where they are, I have an ultrasound scheduled for March 16--at which point the radiologist will determine whether it's time for this little one to arrive.  (Or my dr. did mention if *I* was done by then, I could still deliver on the 18th.  I'm done now--so I doubt I'll have a sudden change of mind 2 weeks from now...)  I will have an NST in the hospital on the morning of March 18 and deliver that afternoon.  While it is still possible that I will make it to the 24th, I honestly don't think that's going to happen. 

So--there, in a very large nutshell, is the update.  I'll probably post again after my appointment next week--or sooner if any changes happen before then.  I guess the good part of all of this is that I'm feeling renewed energy and motivation to get everything on my list done in the next week or so to make sure we're ready whenever this little guy is!

SURPRISE!!!

Last night, I arrived at the church for our Young Women's activity about 10 minutes late.  I'm not usually that late...but last night dinner somehow took longer than usual.  I thought about going with my post-nap hair as-is and with pieces of chicken from dinner still stuck in my teeth.  But, I decided to take a few extra minutes to brush my second-day-hair back into place in its ponytail.  It wasn't fancy, but it looked a ton better than it did before.  And, I flossed and brushed my teeth.  I put on a stained maternity shirt and put a thin non-maternity hoodie over the top.  I figured if I didn't take off the hoodie, no one would ever see the stain.  It was fine--we were only having game night.  Looking back, I'm glad I took those few extra minutes!

After our opening exercises, I started talking to a few people and making my way to the door.  During this time, I found out that the Mia Maids were going to be judges for the Laurel's "Iron Chef" activity.  A few of my girls hurried me along and we went down the hall to start our games--and await the moment we'd be called back in to judge the dishes.

We got into a fun and rousing game of Apples to Apples.  When I've played before, we would say that the green apple cards we collected during the game described us...but, playing with the girls, they said the cards they collected described their future husbands.  I loved that twist on the game! :)  After a little while, the YW President, Jenni, came into to tell us that they were ready for us.  We cleaned up the game and the girls headed down the hall while I had a quick conversation with Jenni about an upcoming fireside.  We walked down the hall and opened the door to the YW room.  As I looked inside, my first impression was, "Why did they decorate Iron Chef night with onesies?" And just then, everyone in the room yelled, "SURPRISE!!!"  There was no Iron Chef--it was a baby shower for me!  I was completely blown away.  Like COMPLETELY.  (My next thought was, "This is SO going on facebook!" LOL)

I don't think I could do much more than stand there in shock for a while. I don't think I can accurately describe how completely surprised I was.  Honestly, I felt so loved and appreciated by all of the YW, the other leaders, and all of the other women who came to participate.  Not sure if anyone could tell, but I was almost in tears. Through the course of the evening, I found out that this had been in the works for a couple of weeks--and, to top it all off, all of the YW had known it was happening for about that long and NO ONE spilled the beans!  (I'm glad they didn't. People who know me know that I LOVE a good surprise--and that it's very hard to surprise me. In fact, when I told my mom, she gave them major kudos for keeping it from me--since I usually tend to catch on to things...)  The Laurels worked on the decorations, (they decorated those onesies and sewed a cute bunting), the Mia Maids planned the game, and the Beehives planned the food.  I absolutely love that the girls were involved with it all.  (Can you tell how much I love the YW in our ward?) :)

It was a perfect shower.  For very personal reasons, the surprise shower was JUST what I needed right now.  I was the recipient of many generous and thoughtful gifts for this little boy. I am so blessed to be in such a great ward with such wonderful friends.  I don't think they realize that they truly made my month!  Just thinking about their thoughtfulness and love will definitely carry me through these remaining weeks.  I am so grateful for all of the hard work (and secret-keeping) that went into such a fantastic event.

A Jumble of Thoughts

I have a lot going on in my head right now...almost like facebook statuses, but more detailed.  Here they are in no particular order...

I decided last Saturday that, come Monday morning, we'd be having a TV free week in our house, (and in the car).  I was extremely hesitant to jump into it--some days it's my sanity.  But I am SO glad we've done it!  I anticipated that Monday would be the hardest day with the most withdrawl.  But it wasn't.  Tuesday, Clayton begged all day for a movie.  Wednesday wasn't bad, but we were gone most of the morning, so it was hard to miss it.  Today, Clayton did ask a few times to watch a show, but was mollified by distractions like reading or playing "chickies" with his sister.  Just before dinner, he turned on the office TV and happened to see a snippet of his favorite show.  (How this didn't happen earlier in the week, I don't know...)  Ryan walked in the door at just the right time and the budding tantrum ceased.  I have to say, if all non-TV weeks were like this one, I don't think I would ever turn it on again.  My kids have been better behaved, happier to help, more prompt in taking care of their responsibilites, read more books, and been kinder to each other.  That last part may be due to the fact that if they're not nice, they are bored and have no one to play with.  I've loved watching their creativity blossom as they come up with new and different things to do each day.

I've been trying out a lot of new recipes this week.  I will admit--I'm a pretty good cook and it's something I really enjoy.  This time, however, I'm trying new things as a result of a malfunctioning gallbladder.  I have voluntarily changed my diet to avoid any further issues.  And, it has been a lot of fun.  Some days, it seems my kitchen is a stage for a comedy of errors.  That's what happens when you're trying new things, (and when you thought you bought a certain ingredient, but you didn't).  But, overall things have turned out pretty well.  I'm enjoying the challenge of cooking high-fiber, very low-fat, low-sugar foods while avoiding dairy and tomato-y sauces.  (For some reason, cooked tomato acid is killer, while citrus or vinegar acid (so far) is fine.)  I feel like I'm succeeding and helping myself and my family enjoy eating in a healthier way.

Life seems to have slowed down a little since the holidays ended.  (I should do my next post on "What I Did Over Christmas Vacation...)  I'm glad it has.  I've had time to be HOME.  And, I've been able to make progress on a few personal goals that I've had since...well, since I got pregnant.  I can't tell you what a difference it's making for me.  It just feels so good to feel better about myself and more in control of my life again.  It has nothing to do with resolutions--it's just time to finally make progress in my personal life again. 

Along these lines, I've had to be a little more disciplined in my YW lesson prep now that we have early meetings.  I used to read the lesson sometime during the week before, then put it together on Sunday.  But now, I'm kind of forced to get it done sooner.  In fact, today, I was able to get it all ready while the kids were napping.  (Except the handouts...)  It's nice to know that all I need to do is review it before Sunday and put together handouts in the next couple of days--instead of feeling that pressure to get it all done that morning.

Speaking of napping, Clayton has been horrible about settling down for his naps this week.  He's not giving up naptime, (because he's gone to sleep every day)--he just hasn't been settling down like he normally does.  Today, he was hitting, squirming, etc. and I finally said, "Do you want bed or rock-a-bye?"  He selected bed...and upon being placed there, proceeded to throw the biggest tantrum I have ever heard him throw.  Maybe he's reached a new cognitive level?  Maybe he's readjusting to our daily routine (reference the forth-coming Christmas post...)?  Maybe it's because it was a full moon?  I have no idea.  I went in a few minutes later, after he had calmed down a little, and offered to rock and sing again.  This time, when I asked him to be still and quiet, he decided to listen.  (Whew!)  It took twice the normal amount of lullaby time for him to really settle down, but I was happy to return to some sense of naptime normalcy.

I have a few other things on my mind, but I think they deserve posts of their own.  So, maybe I'll actually get in a few more tonight.  For now, it's bedtime--and it sounds like my kids are REALLY ready for it.

Baby #4

As I was writing the previous post about Clayton, I realized that I never wrote about the big 20 week ultrasound that happened on Monday.  (I did post about it on facebook, though.)

First of all, that morning was a little crazy.  We had to leave the house 30 minutes earlier than usual.  And by that I mean, I had to be dressed and put together enough to go out in public.  Not just enough to go to the bus stop in a car that I never leave.  So, really, this was pushing it for this overly-tired pregnant momma.  But, I will say I was INCREDIBLY glad that my appointment was first thing in the morning and I didn't have to anticipate it ALL DAY LONG.  (I believe that would be a severe form of torture.) 

Somehow, we made it.  I got Kallie dropped off at a friend's house so she could catch the bus to school 30 minutes later.  I dropped Whitney off at another friend's house so she would be able to get to preschool.  And, Clayton came with us.  (I had a good friend offer to watch him, but he had an ear infection and was still a little on the clingy side.)  I was a little concerned about his attendance and hoped it would be one of his good days.

We arrived at the appointment at about 8:35--10 minutes earlier than the 15 minutes early we were supposed to be for our 9 a.m. appointment.  I have NO idea how we got there so fast.  It usually takes about 35 minutes from my second friend's house--and it took a little less than 30.  We took our time getting up to the office, filled out paperwork, and were waiting in the ultrasound room at 9 a.m.  After about a 5 minute wait, the radiologist came in and started things off.  Knowing that we definitely wanted to know the gender, he did a quick look at the basic structures of the baby and then went straight for the goods. 

I had been telling people for MONTHS, (even before I was pregnant), that I had a feeling this next baby would be a girl. And, I really felt that.  Since I'd been pregnant, I had thought about this baby as a girl, thought about girl names, and even bought a DARLING little pink outfit because the feeling I had was SO strong.  Within a day or two before the appointment, I even called the baby "she" a few times.  So, you can imagine my SHOCK when what showed up on that black and white screen was NOT female anatomy!  As soon as the radiologist got to that area, I looked at the screen and said, "That is a BOY."

The radiologist, (who is seriously one of the nicest people ever), did a more detailed check of the structures he had quickly looked at before and found everything to be in the right place, healthy looking, and properly functioning.  Finding something wrong is my biggest worry before the 20 week ultrasound--so I was quite relieved that everything was in order. 

Oh--and this little boy is not so little.  He's following in his brother's prenatal footsteps and is quite large at this gestational age.  In fact, he was in the 93rd percentile for size.  My girls were not that big--so I wonder if it's a boy thing? Or just that my body has changed the way it grows babies since my first two were gestating?

After my ultrasound, I had an OB appointment to review the ultrasound and do the monthly growth check.  In the time between my ultrasound and my appointment, I called family members, emailed friends, and told just about everyone I talked to how SHOCKED I was by the news I'd just received.  I honestly think I would have been less surprised to find out (after 2 previous ultrasounds so far) that I was having twins or something.  I was QUITE suprised by the gender news.

When I saw my OB, I told him that I had thought for SURE this was a girl.  And he, with a completely straight face, said, "So, it sprouted something?"  I laughed.  Yes. Yes it did.  (I just have to say that my OB is the greatest!  I would send any and all of my friends to him. He is just great at what he does!)

I think it took a while for me to get over the shock that I'm having a boy.  It was a total paradigm shift to relate to this little person as a male--to start thinking in blue instead of pink.  But, it's been two days now and I think I'm getting used to the idea.  I don't want this little boy to think for a second that I'm disappointed he's not a girl.  Because I am not at all!  I am thrilled to welcome another sweet little son into our family--I can't wait to snuggle him in a few months! 

Now the biggest hurdle we're encountering is the name.  We have NO idea what we're going to name this little guy.  While we do have a few more months to figure it out, I'd be happy to even have a list of plausible names at this point...

P.S. Clayton had a very good day. He wasn't allowed to eat or use my phone while the ultrasound was going on. Even without his two favorite forms of distraction, he was a little angel! He simply sat in his stroller and watched the screen without making a peep! Then, once we got into the OB's office, he snacked and chatted, and didn't complain a bit. Ryan and I were both amazed. We ended up giving him our secret weapon/last resort Lightning McQueen Pez dispenser as a reward for being so good once it was all over. He really could not have been better behaved!